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Today, Thursday, September 9th, 2021 is
R U OK DAY.
This is why I’m posting this blog.
If anyone feels suicidal please reach out, as there is lots of help out there, I know, until early 2020, I was suicidal, Daily.
Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.
Growing up I was taught to respect others, which I did, even if I didn’t agree with their narrow minded views.
I still try to respect others, not easy at times, especially when I’m not respected.
Respect works both ways.
If you want to be respected, then how about respecting others.
I think about how I want to be treated by others, then put it into practice.
Many young people today, those under 25, have no respect for anybody else.
Recently, I was travelling home, in a bad mood, when some youths boarded, sans Face Masks, but started playing loud music, feet on the seats and using offensive language. I also feel they graffitied the lavatory. How do I know? I’ve cleaned enough lavatories and graffiti; I know the smell of spray paint and felt markers.
Over the years, I’ve trusted people who have then gone and disrespected me and my privacy, because they felt like it.
I now stay quiet and reveal very little about myself, even when I know someone well, it can take some time for me to open up.
Everyone is Equal, No Matter Who We Are and should be:
I also believe that Privacy is Paramount too.
My advice to everyone reading this:
Please treat everyone how
Want to be treated.
Are Such Important Qualities.
In my long life, I’m 56, I have done many, varied jobs. Some great, with amazing bosses, others terrible with toxic bosses.
What I’ve found, the good ones respect their staff, the bad will always be critical and be nasty.
Some of the jobs I’ve done have been:
Parcel Delivery Driver, Courier, Bus Driver, Kitchenhand, Blood Delivery Driver, Train and Station Cleaner, Mystery Shopper/Auditor, Contract House Cleaner.
In each job, I’ve been treated badly by many people, who would go on power trips to big note themselves.
In my opinion, each disrespected me because they had no respect for themselves.
Even people I’ve worked with were the same.
Respect is earned not given.
Too many people seem to think they must be respected automatically but won’t show the same consideration.
We are currently in a major Pandemic, which you would think people would start to take a step back and reassess their lives.
No, I have not seen anyone doing that.
Instead too many are being selfish and complacent.
Until people start respecting others and doing the right thing, the world, well certainly Australia and New Zealand, will continue to have lockdowns.
As much as I’m enjoying being home, I would much rather be at my customers homes, cleaning them.
Just because someone is older, does not mean they are over the hill, or dumb or deserves to be ignored.
As long as a person is still breathing and capable of carrying out most day to day activities, then they deserve to be respected.
As I said, I try respecting others where possible.
You Ignore me or treat me disrespectfully; I’ll do the same thing.
To me Respect is listening to others, about how they are feeling, and if they don’t want to talk, then respect those wishes.
The only time, I believe in interfering is if the person seems suicidal or starts putting other’s lives in danger.
I recently attended an online meeting, some of you reading this were there, and we discussed about R U Ok, and we all should be looking out for each other, guiding each other too, because no one knows when we might be in the same position.
We all need help at times, having someone respecting us and how we are feeling, can help boost our mood.
I can tell you, until COVID started, I was a very depressed, negative person, but since attending online meetings, and I was Group Leader for one, I’ve changed my outlook on life.
Being connected to and with so many amazing winners, both online and in real life, has changed me.
Please Respect Everyone YOU come In Contact With,
BECAUSE YOU NEVER KNOW WHEN THAT PERSON COULD HELP YOU.