EMOTIONAL GRIEF.

Warning: Some of the content may be too distressing for some people, I myself cried whilst writing it. I recommend grabbing some tissues, just in case.

© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.

I wish to Thank Pinterest Members for the photos.

What is Emotional Grief?

To me, it’s the grief I suffer and have been for many years, as many people have passed away.

The following are people who have passed away, way too young, in my opinion.

Of course, I will not use real names, out of respect.

In order of death, For Me:

Early 1970’s, My Uncle, who was found in the gutter outside his home. He died from Alcohol Poisoning. His Wife was my father’s younger sister.

A couple of years later, my cousin, the son of the above, aged 9. Killed in a Motor Vehicle Accident. His mother was intoxicated, drove the car, and crashed head on into a telegraph pole, otherwise known as a Lamp Post.

1981, My Grandfather, my father’s father, passed away from Leukemia.

September 1981, the Great Grandmother of my favourite cousin died on my cousin’s Wedding Day. I didn’t know her that well.

1982 or 83, My cousin who was a year and a day older than me, was killed via a shotgun or rifle. My father found out, when he bought the afternoon newspaper, and there was the story as front page headlines.

Late 1980’s the father of the above, died. I don’t know the circumstances around his death. He was married to my Father’s other Sister

July 1991, My Mother. Less than 8 weeks from Official Diagnosis to death. To this day, I blame myself a lot for her death. However, I blame my stupid blister even more.

November 1994, My Beloved Claire Baire. I found out 6 hours after her funeral, she had died. That day, is when I made my first suicide attempt.

Late 1990’s my father’s mother. I don’t know what she died from.

2003, a 7 year old patient who I had the privilege of delivery life saving medical supplies to, passed away. I found as I was leaving work on a Friday. I was in disbelief all weekend.

2009, a couple of people I worked with passed away. Both were amazing.

2010, My Father. He had for years complained about a knotted stomach but refused to get treated. He ended up in surgery, but had a massive Heart Attack, fell into a coma, and I had to make the most terrible decision. I would never wish that decision on my 2nd worst enemy, ”Chris,”  because it’s not easy and much harder when you have no one to talk too.

December 2019, My amazing UK friend was found deceased at home. I still don’t know what official C.O.D. was. I miss her every day, but like CB, know they are both guiding me.

Funny story about her: I was writing Body Swap Murder Mystery and had planned who was the murderer, however, got stuck towards the end. Something told me to go in a completely different direction, and guess what? It worked. I wrote 4 chapters in the space of 5 days. I feel my UK friend was guiding me.

Grief affects everyone differently:

Maybe a song will play which causes us to release our emotions,

Or, a movie might, or a smell.

Sometimes, we just cry for no logical reason.

Here’s a recent example for me, I was walking home and saw a car, registered in NSW, Australia. The plate letters and numbers hit home and reminded me about the good times with CB. I stopped and broke down in tears, because that 9 years we were together, were the best ever in my existence.

To anybody reading this, who feels emotional at times, but others tell you to get over it, don’t listen to them.

It’s healthy to cry and release our emotions.

It’s really a sign of strength.

Grief should not always be about the death of someone, it could be the end of a Friendship or Relationship.

We normally get very close to someone and when the friendship/relationship ends, can cause us to emotionally grieve.

Same could be said of a long time job.

There are many different types of emotional grief, and as I’ve already mentioned, we all grieve differently.

There is no right or wrong way to grieve, we are able to grieve how we want to, and when we want to.

I will say this though, if the grief becomes way too hard for you, please seek professional help.

It doesn’t mean you are weak; it means you are strong, but need external guidance.

I hope this has helped many of you because that what this post is all about.

Thank You for reading this and I invite all of you to follow my blog, and you are all welcome to check out my previous blogs and my website too.

Chuckios,

You Amazing Stunnelicious Winners.

© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

40, 40, 40, LEGAL SCAM.

© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.

I will explain.

Many of us work 40 hours per week, for 40 years, then retire on 40% of our previous income.

How many of you want that when you retire?

Not Me!!!!!!!!!!!!!

From a young age we are Brainwashed in to believing, the only way to get ahead in life:

Do Well In School, Higher Education,

Find A:

Just

Over

Broke,

And accept the meagre wages of your greedy fat cat employer, who decides

YOUR FINANCIAL WORTH.

We are not encouraged to seek:

OPPORTUNITIES,

WHY?

Because Big Business wants to control the masses.

How many of you have enjoyed Working From Home during this Pandemic, but have been told, you must return to the Office or your work site?

Businesses only want their employees back on site, so they can Micro Manage and claim Tax Deductions too.

Every Single Every Day Winner is capable of becoming Financially Secure, if each broke free from the shackles of

MODERN SLAVERY.

Have you ever thought about a 2nd income, whereby you don’t need to stress yourself out?

There are many opportunities out there for winners seeking to increase their income and maybe put a little aside for a rainy day.

The only way to make money is by paying money.

N.B. This may be a Tax Deduction if you have an ABN. (Australia) Other countries, please check your Taxation Website.

My advice is do your research and talk to the people involved in the business.

Conduct online checks, mainly to check the businesses Government status.

As this pandemic is now allowing us to move about more freely, there are start- ups in need of funding capital, Yes MCC is one.

Here is my Personal Checklist:

Ensure there is a written agreement between the business and Investor/Business Partner.

Talk to your Financial Adviser, mainly to find the Taxation Benefits.

Arrange a chat with the business owner, either in person, or online.

N.B. I offer a free 30 minute Zoom Call, or if in Melbourne, Australia, a chat over a coffee.

Many start-ups, usually don’t have much in the way of merchandise, but will in time. I have photos of candles I’ve made and you can check out our testimonials on Google, by Googling “Mel’s Customised Candles.”

Please be advised, if a business offers an affiliate opportunity, please do not dismiss it as it can lead to an increase in income.

Most people associate affiliate marketing as a Pyramid Scheme. PS’s are illegal.

The reason why I want to establish MCC is to not only help everyday winners succeed financially, but also employ winners finding it difficult to find work, because they may lack the training and skills needed for jobs.

Everyone deserves the chance to feel like a worthy functioning, contributing member of society.

WE ARE ALL EQUALS.

🐨🦘🚙🏖🥂🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏳‍🌈🏨🏨🏨🏨🏩🏩🏰🏰🌇🌅🌄🌃🌁⛺⛲🧳🧳🪑🛏🛋🛁🚿🧽🧴🪒🚽🧯 Warners Bay, NSW, Australia

© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.

As promised this is the first blog about places I’ve stayed or visited.

As The world is now opening up, if anyone plans to visit the Newcastle/Hunter Valley Region of Australia, I highly recommend staying here.

1st up, I have not received any incentive to post this blog, my reason for posting is to educate.

In 2014, I stayed at this amazing hotel twice.

Both times, I was treated well by the staff.

The rooms are spacious, with tea and coffee making facilities.

View Towards the Mountains.

Bistro, which is in front of the delivery truck, had affordable, top quality food.

As I have not stayed there in over 7 Years, I’m unable to give a recent review.

There is a take away (Take Out) Bottle Shop.

Location is a short drive from the M1 Motorway from Sydney.

There is plenty to do in the region:

Belmont, Broadmeadow, Cardiff, Caves Beach, Glendale, Hunter Valley, Nelson Bay, Newcastle, New Lambton, Swansea, Williamtown, are all easy drives and each has amazing Tourist attractions or are Transport hubs.

I would highly recommend making this hotel your base.

All of the photos are from both stays.

Please check out their website to find out more up to date information.

https://warnersatthebay.com.au/

Please check out the photos below, all taken by Yours Truly.

I also provided a review on Google too, everyone is welcome to check it out and WATB responded too.

Who knows when you stay here, you may bump into me as I plan to stay once lockdowns are over, despite my apprehensions.

N.B. There are several people in this region who strongly dislike me, why I have no idea as I have never met them. This is also the area where “Chris” resided during our short lived association.

COMMON SENSE/COURTESY.

© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.

G’day My Amazing Winners.

This blog is to hopefully educate many of you about these topics, very close to my heart.

1st Up Common Sense.

Many people fail to use it today, but should be applied in everything we do, hear and see.

Some of the most common failings I’ve found:

Wasting Electricity:

Leaving unused appliances connected and switched on when not in use. These stay on standby and draw power, which costs You $$$$$$$$$$$ I always turn off and disconnect unused appliances.

For the following reasons:

1 is the above example.

2: It allows an appliance to fully cool down, and thus Extending an appliances life, again saving you $$$$$$$$.

3: If there is a Blackout, any disconnected appliances will be safe from harm. Yes, many households and Businesses have Surge Protection, but what if that fails?

YOU are up for many thousands of dollars to replace the items, unless your insurance covers it.

Rubbish Bins and Recycling:

If you have “Wheelie Bins.” I have found having the handle and wheels on the outside, makes for easier manoeuvrability on bin day as it alleviates undue body strain, which will save you from pain in the future.

Now, I’ve had many arguments with others about this, and have given up, however, remember the ad campaign and literature which was available when they first arrived.

Granted, it’s easier the other way around when needing to place rubbish in the bins, however, as they fill up, they get heavier and can be a chore to move when needing to put them out.

Another thing, having the wheels on the outside, mean when you open the lid, it falls down. The other way around, you need to use your head to keep it up. That’s dangerous and a health hazard.

What if there is a strong wind, wrong angle could open the lid, and cause the bin to become a dangerous missile. I recently saw this happen. The bin narrowly missed several pedestrians and motor vehicles.

Also, having the wheels at the back, means you need to place your fingers under the rim to move the bin, what if there were spiders hiding under there?

Recycling Bins:

Please crush and flatten all recycling. This removes any air and allows for more items to be placed in the recycling. If your council is like most and recycling emptied fortnightly, it makes common sense to start doing this.

Cleaning:

I’m an experienced Train and Domestic Cleaner, however, this is only a suggestion.

When it comes to cleaning a house, I suggest having a pre-arranged day whereby other occupants vacate for the day.

This is for several reasons:

1. No footprints on freshly moped floors.

2. Safety, if someone forgets the floors may be slippery, and flies out of  a room. N.B. I have seen this happen. That person could fall over and injure themselves. Unfortunately, the person cleaning can and usually is liable.

3. I always remove mats, chairs and removable objects so I can clean better and more effectively. Of course, heavy items do not get moved, ask for help, because:

SAFETY FIRST.

Cleaning is basically common sense.

Always Dust from top, Including Ceiling Fan Blades, Ceilings, Top Of Windows, Door, to Bottom, including Skirting Boards  I always dust where I can reach safely.

The above are my favourites as the dusters retain the dust, etc, and can be disposed of.

Next: Wiping Down. I try to get help to steady ladder whilst I wipe down the tops of the ceiling fan blades and the sides too. You would not believe how much better they will operate when fully cleaned.

I then wipe down walls, Window Sills, Skirting Boards and shelves. Grab a cloth and wipe away excess, this is for anything where a wet wipe has been used.

Also use wipe to clean door handles. COVID may be present in your home, better to be safe than sorry.

Bathrooms:

I boil the kettle and part fill a cleaning bowl, which has had some Environmentally Friendly cleaning aid sprayed in it. Then grab a scrubbing brush and scrub every part of the bathroom tiles, including the floor, as scum accumulates, which causes disease.

N.B. Please before starting any clean, always wear PPE. This is to alleviate any injuries.

Common Courtesy:

Again, something close to my heart.

If someone talks to you but you have earphones on, turn them off to listen. I find it to be very rude when a person keeps listening to their music.

I no longer talk to those who refuse to turn their music off.

Being Polite costs nothing, and you never know how much you may learn.

Driving:

Drive to the conditions, but always maintain a safe distance of at least 2 car lengths from the vehicle in front, as you never know when or if your vehicle will let you down. I know from personal experience.

Be courteous to other drivers, especially heavy vehicles as they have a job to do and help keep many other vehicles off the roads.

Please think of heavy vehicles this way: That driver you refused to let in, might have an urgent item of YOURS onboard.

Always obey the Speed Limits. Recently, where I walk, there has been roadworks in place, with a reduced speed limit, yet, way too many drivers are driving too fast. My anxiety has peaked at times

SPEED KILLS.

When a pedestrian wishes to cross the roadway, Only at marked foot crossings, please allow them to cross safely and don’t move your vehicle until the person has stepped onto the footpath. So many times, recently, I’ve had to stop and wait until it is safe to cross.

Having A Drivers Licence is a Privilege, NOT A RIGHT.

Public Transport:

I’m a user of PT.

When boarding, please step aside and allow others to alight first, this allows for quicker boarding and departure.

Please never gather around entryways, again, this causes delays.

If you consume any food and/or drink, please place the rubbish in a plastic bag and take it with you to dispose of at your destination station or stop.

I always carry a plastic bag with me for this purpose.

Please keep noise to a minimum as there are other people travelling.

I especially despise the use of swear words.

Walking/Cycling:

I always walk or cycle on the same of the footpath as we drive. Here in Australia, it is the Left Hand Side.

However, I’m appalled at the number of people who abuse me because I refuse to move. I won’t move at all. I’ve been pushed, punched, stabbed and spat on many times, because I stand my ground, LEGALLY.

Here is a story from early 2006:

My father was recovering in Hospital, I went to my local coffee shop to buy a coffee and head to the train station to catch the train to the city, then bus to the hospital.

As I was walking to the mall to get my coffee, an idiot walked towards me and shoved me out of the way, abusing me for being in their way. I was walking on the left hand side. I was already in a foul mood and this set me off.

We started yelling at each other, which made onlookers stop and watch. Someone called the Police who soon arrived and spoke to both of us.

I was lucky, a couple of onlookers saw what happened and backed me up. Unfortunately, both of us received a warning and told to move along.

I was not happy about this, but in hindsight, we could have been charged with several offences.

I continued on, bought my coffee and headed to the station and to see dad.

Another time, I was trying to alight from the train, when an arrogant, very smelly, male tried pushing me back inside because he was impatient and did not want to wait. Again, I let fly at this creature.

On board were Inspectors checking tickets, whom I knew and they backed me up.

They held the train up whilst they checked this persons ticket. Guess what? He never had one and was dragged off the train to receive an infringement.

My Point of this blog today, is to point out the small things in our lives, we can all change for the better, because I want you all to live:

Long

Healthy

Happy

Safe

Enjoyable

LIVES

YOUR WAY.

This blog has not been posted to be mean or nasty, I’m pointing some different ways for better life.

I never started using the Internet until 2006, when I was 40/41.

Growing up I never had the luxury of the Information Super Freeway.

Research was done at a Library.

Thank You For Reading This, I hope I have Educated You and Please get in contact if you require further information.

© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

https://linktr.ee/MelissaJ2014

HOMELESSNESS

© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.

I was always led to believe, Homeless people were drunks, thieves and lazy people.

However, in 2019, I was lucky to become friends with an amazing Transgender friend of mine, who organised a group of people every month to buy food, non-alcoholic drinks, clothes and toiletries.

Package them up and go out to hand deliver these care packages to the Homeless of Melbourne, Australia.

I was lucky enough to be invited along to help out, and wow, were my eyes opened to these amazing human beings.

I saw young people, some with families, who were in the vicious circle of poverty and honestly broke my heart.

I realised how lucky I was.

Recently, I was in the CBD of Melbourne, and decided to go for a walk to see how they were going.

Would you believe, I never saw any.

I have no idea why, whether, they had found shelter, or had been moved on, I don’t know.

Maybe they were in a soup kitchen.

During Melbourne’s lockdowns, I have constantly thought about these amazing humans, and hoped they were being cared for.

Not many know this, but in early 2019, I was briefly Homeless.

But I still had somewhere to sleep:

The first night, I was in Hospital, as I was assaulted, thankfully it was minor.

The 2nd, I fell asleep sitting at a table in my storage unit.

The 3rd and 4th nights, I was lucky to find a room in a cheap hotel.

I posted about my predicament online and a friend offered me a room, where she lived. I ended up living there for just over 15 months.

Yes, Technically I was not homeless, but had I not had these events occur, I could have been.

This is a reason why, when I heard about this group, it was a way for me to give back.

There is a 2 part episode of

Saved By The Bell

Called “Home For Christmas” Season 3, episodes 58 & 59.

This storyline could have been ripped from the headlines at the time.

Every time I watch it, I cry, because I used to live in the Inner City of Sydney and saw many Homeless people, and yes, I was an uneducated, narrow minded small person.

I believe everyone can become homeless in their life time, no matter what we do, circumstances may force to be homeless. Honestly, I never thought I would ever be that close.

One of my goals, is to help the homeless of Melbourne, either by buying a run down property and converting it to suitable SRO’s, and/or employing them at my Production Studio.

Many people simply turn their noses up at homeless people, because most are too selfish, arrogant and uneducated to know better.

Granted, There are professional Homeless people out there, and some who are drunks, thieves and nasty, but that’s a very small percentage.

What I would also like to do, once MCC established.

Every month, buy $5,000 worth of food, non-alcoholic drinks, clothes and toiletries, package them up and go out to hand deliver them to the homeless.

I know it’s a big job, but I believe with your help, either as Business Partners or Subscribers, we can achieve it.

Alone, we barely make a ripple,

However,

2Gether as a group, we will create Tsunamis.

Who Is With Me?

Tuesday Vibes

© Mel’s Customised Candles Melbourne, Australia, 2021

Disclaimer: As usual, what is written below is my own personal opinion, and may vary from yours. It doesn’t mean to say that either is correct or incorrect, that’s what makes us all Humans.

This blog is from earlier this year, which I’ve updated.

G’day all, hope we are great.

I’m wishing everyone a positive year. Let’s forget last year, or at least learn the lessons and move on.

Our goal is to help everyday humans create financial freedom.

We believe every winner is capable of untold wealth.

From a young age, we are brainwashed into believing, to be successful, we need to work for someone else, but they get wealthy, whilst paying us a piddling amount of money.

I think of work like this:

The Employer is a Fisherman, dangling the bait (Wages) and Employees are the Fish.

Honestly, that’s ok for many people, but given today’s world economic state, everyone should be seeking multiple income streams.

Wealthy Winners seek out opportunities and buy in.

Most of the time, there are Taxation Benefits.

The below link is for Australia, but I recommend everyone check out their own countries tax websites to see what benefits may be allowed.

https://www.ato.gov.au/Business/Income-and-deductions-for-business/Deductions/Deductions-for-home-based-business-expenses/

Again, Australia, applying for an ABN is easy:

https://abr.business.gov.au/

Wishing every winner the very best of luck for the remainder of 2021 and beyond.

Mind Games:

Can hurt people.

I know, as people have either played Mind Games with me, or others to stop others from associating with me.

These can also be dangerous as people believe what is said, and people can, and have been, injured or killed.

To me, a person who plays Mind Games is:

Cowardly:

Insecure:

Jealous:

Irrational:

Immature:

Liars:

Control Freaks:

Manipulators:

Empty Lived.

I’m sure there are many more.

MIND GAMES RUIN LIVES

REFUND/SPECIAL OFFER.

I wish to offer a refund to all Business Partners, who join by the end of 2021.

Buy 4 BP’s, receive a 5th FREE. A Perfect 🤶🎄🎅🎄🤶🎄🎅🎄🤶🎄🎅🎄🤶🎄🎅Christmas Gift for winners who love candles and wish to earn extra 💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲💲 without having to put extra stress on their bodies.

(Please see our Subscribers Page)

However, you need to have a Long Term Plan in place, 2+ years as a BP.

Once we achieve $10 Million After Tax Profit, every winner will receive their initial Buy-In cost back, and still remain a BP if they so wish.

Buy-In cost is just $25 AUD and will be use to fund the establishment of MCC.

However, if by the end of February, we have not raised the minimum Start-Up cost, $2.5 Million, each BP will either receive their buy-in cost back, or a Limited Edition, Logoed/Named Hot Beverage Mug.

Sample of Hot Beverage Mug.

Please email us at melscustomisedcandles@gmail.com if you are interested.

Finally, All payments MUST be electronic, not only Taxation Purposes, but so you have a record of payment.

Did You Know? Home Based Businesses

Can be financially beneficial.

What I mention is Australian, but could apply anywhere around the world, you will need to check your own country’s tax rules.

How many of you get annoyed when big business pays little or no tax?

From my experience, they do pay tax, just intelligent about it.

How many of you enjoy the free beverages, food, vehicle use, office supplies & facilities provided at your workplace?

That’s how they do it, each of the above are tax deductions.

Everyday humans can receive the same benefits.

Applying for an ABN is easy, starting as a Sole Trader.

Ever thought about being reimbursed for lunch, coffee, dinner?

With an ABN, & eligible Business, if you obtain a receipt, it may be deductible.

Vehicle running costs too.

Please check out the link, as it details most common deductions.

https://www.ato.gov.au/business/income-and-deductions-for-business/deductions/deductions-for-home-based-business-expenses/

FYI: If you become a Business Partner of MCC, you might be able to claim the joining cost too.

Many everyday humans don’t know about these benefits. I found out about them, during my short time, working for the ATO.

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